What if we took “Should” out of our vocabulary with horses? Perhaps less frustration, fewer battles, and more understanding. Perhaps softer hands, calmer hearts, and deeper connections. Most importantly, we might find ourselves relating to horses not as tools to perform, but as sentient beings to partner with. And that is a change worth making.

Fear and the urge to control horses is something every rider experiences at some point. What is involved in this and what are the alternatives?

Softness is a word that’s used often in the horse world, soft hands, soft seat, soft horse…. but what is it and how do we get it?